Tuesday, 10 March 2009

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

I always think I’m a racist bitch because I hate watching Indians or Blacks or any other race for that matter, make-out on TV. It just seems wrong and it grosses me out. However, I don’t mind watching Whites play tonsil hockey and to be blatantly honest, my nasty colonial habit extends to literature too because I always imagine the protagonist and antagonist to be White…and even if there are additional characters from other races, as long as the main characters are White, I won’t loose interest in the book.

But truth be told, I think Shemar Moore is hot. Blair Underwood, Jay Hernandez, Shaahid Kapoor, Wentworth Miller, John Abraham, Taye Diggs, Eric Dane, Mark Consuelos…I could seriously go on and on, you name them, they all rank high in my books and trust me, I don’t see skin colour when I look at abs of steel lol!

I can remember one particular incident, when we were in Amsterdam just over a year ago. We were visiting FC, who happens to be Mother’s youngest brother. I call him FC because he’s barely three years older than I am and he’s been that main brother-figure in my life so “Uncle” just won’t do. We landed on the day of Eid-ul-Adhaa and Mother went straight to work on the Briyani and roast chicken. FC went to the Masjid and came back with Muhammed, a Surinamese native who had been living in Amsterdam with his mother for the best part of his life.

Now this particular Muhammed was all kinds of amazing. He was polite, funny, charismatic, courteous, gracious, and a gentleman in every sense of the word. His mixed Dutch accent made him so adorable and the fact that he left early to help his mother made him even more appealing…he was just like how I like my men, straight mixed with some feisty and a dash of charisma. I don’t even have to mention that he was black because it’s irrelevant and none of us even saw his skin colour.

That’s when it hit me. The first light bulb went on.

I’m not racist in the traditional sense. I just hate cultures. And I don’t discriminate like I’ve said on numerous occasions, because I hate EVERYONE equally. I hate those cultures who think they are superior to everyone else. I hate those cultures that don’t even think twice about offending you with their ignorance and arrogance. I hate those cultures who feel entitled to everything they set their eyes on because of incidents that occurred in history. I hate those cultures that try to justify their actions with warped perceptions of reality. I hate those cultures that are indignant and bear grudges. I hate those cultures that a greedy fuckers who think of no one else but themselves. I hate those cultures that belittle and are condescending to others. I hate those cultures that are defensive and rationalise bad behavior. I hate those cultures that don’t respect others….

That’s when the second light bulb went on. What I really hate is disrespect.

And upon further reflection I’ve come to the following conclusions: South African’s do not have a culture of respect or a culture of conservation and preservation either. Now I know that there are many other nations out there with similar issues but I want to focus on South Africa as a nation in particular.

South African’s do not have a culture of respect or conservation or preservation, and I’ve said this before. They don’t respect each other, that’s why they can infringe on each others rights and blame Apartheid for their ignorance. They don’t respect the environment, that’s why they can destroy and fuck up everything they come into contact with through vandalism and pollution. They don’t respect themselves, that’s why it’s so easy for others to use and abuse them. They don’t respect the rules of the road, that’s why they drive like animals. They don’t respect the law and human life, that’s why they rape and pillage everything they come into contact with, even little babies that are barely six months old.

If I had to choose an analogy, I’d have to say that most South African’s remind me of Gog and Magog or Yajooj and Majooj, as stated in both the Bible and the Quraan, in that the culture is one of consumption, obliteration, devastation and rebellion. They don’t know what respect is and as a result, they’re breeding and spawning a whole new generation of “people” with similar sentiments, who won’t know what it means to have respect either.

What a sad state of affairs.

13 comments:

  1. mmm i agree with you. I do believe though that apartheid has played a major role in indoctrinating people, but its no excuse either. I think most people here are just close-minded. It is vey sad and for me, frustrating!

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  2. youre not painting a good picture of south affans :p

    i've always believed The Dark side is inherent in all of us (and similarly, so is the opposite). but experiences and interacting with people change with time. there is a lot to be said for indoctrination/grooming: its a societal Killer for the more vulnerable/susceptible.

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  3. I like Saffans and of the numerous I've now met only few I would say conform to the qualities you describe.

    However in terms of cultures as a people. Well your words could decribe so many countries, Pakistan is like that, I was in Egypt recently and it was similar. But those people on a one on one basis are great.

    I live in England and we have laws for driving, we are slowly becoming more environmentally conscious but I wouldn't say these people are civilised. I would actually say they are just as bad as everyone else... they just do the same old shit with manners, etiquette and a poncy accent. Granted it's not as bad as SA or other third world countries.

    but just cos you act civil doesn't mean you're civilised.

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  4. NK - True...Apartheid did have a major influence, but sometimes I think some people use that as an excuse for their bad behaviour. The real people who suffered are our parents and grandparents ect. Not some 19 year old who wants to throw tantrums because she's not getting what she wants and then uses the "race" card to manipulate people. This generation...the younger generations in fact, know nothing about the struggles of Apartheid, they THINK they know, they don't know anything. They can't even begin to fathom it...but they walk around with this sense of entitlement and chips on their shoulders and that irks the shit out of me.

    Sofi - Dearie, the truth is the truth, and it doesn't help that people delude themselves into thinking everything is great when it isn't. I don't want to sit here and paint this rosy picture of SA when it isn't like that. We have our shit...but then again, so does everyone else :D

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  5. TMG - I do believe we all have our crap. I did find it nice that I could walk and cross the street in London, without cars trying to run me over...because thats how it is here. No one stops for you and waits for you to cross, they will try to run you over :P

    But on the flipside, Saffans are generally warmer, more receptive people than Britons. So yeah, I do believe we all have our crap.

    I'm just tired of this crap though.

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  6. this sounds so much like the Paki lot. i love the culture which was innate i hate the confused culture which now seems to be everywhere and anywhere.

    the dark side is pretty much induced in here. people were not as dark as they have become. it is not the weather this time. but definitely it is the loss of CONSCIENCE!
    Shame Shame!

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  7. lol I remember in Egypt the traffic was like that.. running a gauntlet every time, but there was a kind of organised chaos to it all. I enjoyed it, doubt it's like that in SA though

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  8. AD - People do seem more detached in general. It's every man for himself and God for all.

    TMG - I remember driving through Cairo at like 2 in the morning and seeing thousands - yes literally thousands of people going through a bazaar. I was AMAZED lol. 2am in SA means lock your door and go to bed lol
    I love Britain btw...
    Overall, I find human adaptation to be astounding. It's weird the things we go through and how we find a sense of kinship in that. Like traffic light vendors...to us they're what makes us South African...and in the weirdest way that makes us patriotic and proud. But then there is the downside...and what I mentioned infuriates lots of other people...so its not just me.

    We have a long way to go...

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  9. its not just a matter of apartheid residue, desis (I mean south Asians) and Arabs are perhaps the worst racist. Europe and North American also have their share of Racists but they have institutionally and constitutionally declared it to be a punishable crime of it affects a person's ability or property. Us, on the other hand, tacitly accept racism and secretly condone it without consciously doing so

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  10. A few people I know would say..."I am NOT racist,I just DONT'T like black people!"

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  11. Tazeen - So true.
    I always hear horrible stories about the Arabs...they definitely fall into the category of "Cultures who think they are superior to everyone else"...alot of the South African Indians fall in that category too.

    Mini - lol... I know alot of people that would say that too. And at one time, I thought I hated blacks too, but nope I don't actually...I just hate the South African ones. The British ones are cool :P

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  12. I know a lot of Saffans and to be honest it really threw me at first when I saw how patriotic you guys are. Actually that's not the right term I don't know what is. but it was suprising for me to meet brownies who's identity is so closely linked to that of their homeland. sort of made me envious for about 0.5 of a second.

    I think the only thing that marks me out as English/British is the sense of humour.

    Human adaptation is a wonderful thing but we don't only do it when continent hopping, we're doing it every time we step into a new environment or meet new people, go to work. lots of masks some would say or maybe we have different toolsets in our brains to deal with different situations.

    and yeah Cairo... I miss it.

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  13. TMG - I guess the "patriotism" is more the bonds we have having had to fight for freedom together under Apartheid. Because the blacks weren't the only ones fighting, the coloured and Indians were too. So alot of people are very attached to this country...even those expats who left throughout the years to find greener pastures will voice their affection for SA...
    But there are some cultures that need desperate change.

    But I agree with you, we're adapting every day...the only constant is change. And it is quite remarkable how this land of SA, is the only land we call home...we don't have other homelands even though our ancestors come from far and wide. (Well London is my second home and those immigrants who came to Sa five years ago are excluded)

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