Tuesday, 21 August 2012

In retrospect...

So Ramadan came and went. Like it does every year. Only this year was a little different. I've never had such a tough Ramadan in a very long time, if ever. I don't know exactly what was so taxing about it, because it wasn't the hunger or the thirst or the chronic exhaustion. No, all that was easy. It was just something else...

In any case, it was a good and successful month. I managed to do what I had to do and get through each day by the grace of The Almighty.

There was still a lot that I wanted to say on this blog during the month that I didn't get to say because I either had no time or no energy. Maybe next year. People don't know how much it takes out of me to do posts based on religion.

I read a lot recreationally throughout the year, and over months and years I collate necessary information to bring to this blog - not only for public knowledge - but for myself really. So some of those posts were months and even years in the making. It's not easy putting it together, especially because it requires checking, re-checking and validating the information and its sources. And for some inexplicable reason, it's emotionally draining.

I've often said that there's nothing wrong with Islam, but there's a lot wrong with Muslims in general. And I believe that more than ever before.

For some reason, many Muslims cannot reconcile their beliefs with their secular lifestyles and tend to veer from one extreme to the next. It's like they'll either become fanatical, or they want to change the rules of Islam to suit them, or they abandon the religion altogether. Most Muslims don't know the how to worship and still live in the 21st century. And for that, I place the blame squarely on their effed up cultures that dictate how and who people should be in their societies. Please note this is NOT EVERYONE, ONLY A FRACTION OF THE POPULATION, BUT ENOUGH PEOPLE TO GIVE THE REST A BAD NAME.

I've never been a fan of culture. Like I said previously, where Islam was meant to unify, culture did nothing but divide. That aside, I know enough to know that every society cannot exist without culture - so we're basically screwed.

I rarely talk of my religion outside of Ramadan because for me, it's a very intimate and personal thing. I don't mind answering any questions and giving my opinion when asked. But for the most part, my relationship with God Almighty is no ones business but my own. I worship and practice Islam in a way that is very much a part of my every day life. It's like brushing my teeth. It's something I have to do for myself and I don't expect a medal every time I do it. I don't expect to get rewarded for my worship any more than one would expect to be rewarded for combing ones hair.

For those who believe that Muslim women are oppressed, let me just state for the record that I am very happy to have been born a Muslim and that I get to pratice Islam, in much the same way my second cousin Lila is very happy to have been born Catholic and to be practicing Christianity - and we respect each others beliefs. To each his own. There is no one else I'd rather be, and I wouldn't give it up for the world.

I have the utmost respect for all faiths. I truely believe that every single person out there has the right to forge their own path to The Divine, in any manner they choose, as long as it doesn't hurt others. And I will never stop anyone from seeking Him out. My name is not God and I do not judge or condemn.

Belated Eid Mubarak to all the people who celebrated on Sunday.


  1. Hope you're resting and eating well now! Thought of you yesterday when I overheard my favorite street-cart vendor talking to a customer about Eid...

  2. yeah. culture divides. some how among indians or people of indian ethnicity, it's even worse. lol.
    i get it all the time from indians in general... but if something is not backed up by common sense, i'm not much into cultural practices or beliefs. they complicate life.
    hope Eid's been good over there.

  3. I appreciate your insightfulness and openness about your religious beliefs. I learn every time.

    Glad to hear it was successful month. I hope the something else, whatever it is, becomes easier for you.

  4. Happy belated Eid and I agree with your respect for other cultures and faiths

  5. I'm a believer of faith and the greater good of the universe (and that we should, of course, try to be the best people we can be to ourselves and to one another), but I can't say religion has been a strong core for me. Might be those 8 years of strict Catholic school when I was growing up. But definitely, even showing a little respect for everyone and their cultural/religious differences goes a long way.

    Happy belated Eid Mubarak! :)

  6. None of us can live or love more than one day at a time, finding whatever meaning and richness as we can the same way.

    Thanks for sharing your life, my friend.

  7. Religion hasn't been a strong part of my life but it is always great to learn about different perspectives.

    I have enjoyed the last few posts during Ramadan. Thank you.

  8. Roving Retorter
    Thanks :) I'm still getting used to eating normally - it feels wrong.

    Eid was great! And yeah, the Indians are the worst when it comes to cultural discrimination and segregation :)

    I don't even know what that was that something else - can't put my finger on it. But at least I got to reach my objectives! :)

    Thanks! Respect is all we have at the end of the day :)

    Thanks! When we are good to others, we are being good to ourselves. As they say, Karma is only a bitch if you are ;)

    Those are very wise (and true) words. We should make the best of every moment! :)

    I'm glad that you've enjoyed reading and that you can take away some new knowledge. That was my intention - to educate :)

  9. If only everyone could have your (and my) views on religion...Practice how it suits you and let others practice how it suits them (that being said...if one's "practice" of their religion includes killing others...I will probably take issue with that).

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  11. 'I place the blame squarely on their effed up cultures that dictate how and who people should be in their societies.' As a shameless nonbeliever, the only thing I have to say in this respect, Az, is Amen to that. I find it unbelievable how so many people on this planet allow themselves to be treated like puppets, and I'm not only talking about Muslims, of course. It goes for everyone. It might have something to do with fear and politics... ;)

    P.S. I'm a bit fed up with blogging, but you know I'll always come and pay you a visit :)
    - Randy

  12. I have to say, I notice this all too often: "For some reason, many Muslims cannot reconcile their beliefs with their secular lifestyles and tend to veer from one extreme to the next. It's like they'll either become fanatical, or they want to change the rules of Islam to suit them, or they abandon the religion altogether. "

    Hope you had a fabulous Eid!

  13. Deidre
    I also believe that people are entitled to do whatever pleases them, as long as they don't hurt others.

    Nice to see you're still alive and kicking :)

    Thanks girl :) It was lovely as always.

  14. A belated Eid Mubarak to you!

    As always, this was a thoughtful adn beautifully-written post, and I applaud you having written it.

    It always baffles me when (ignorant) people generalise certain groups...I mean, WTF? It's saddening and pathetic (and a whole bunch of other stuff). I just don't get it. I mean, I do; on an intellectual level I do, but on another entirely different level I soooo don't, and never will, frankly.

    The world can really suck donkey's balls sometimes.

  15. Pretzel Thief
    The world, it seems, suffers endlessly because of the ignorance of a much of hooligans. *sigh*